Tuesday, 14 October 2014

Getting things off my chest.

Once again I was going to start this post off with catching up - but then wondered who actually views it as catching up only me and what am I catching up with and why do I feel that I am always catching up, when it reality I am like so many, if not all of us who are so busy with actually living our lifes. Last week I was all set to write a post, had my cuppa ready was sitting comfortable and as I started "ping" an email drops into my box shortly followed by another and the result of these two emails my whole week changed, everything was turned upside down and all my excitement of my latest adventures went flying out the window.  I was now left wondering what the heck was going on and wondering about people and how different we all are and how we all deal with different things and  how these two things effect others around the individual when things go wrong.  Now if you have got this far you are probably all wondering what on earth is she going on about??  So I shall bore you all with it for a couple of reasons, one it helps to talk and two someone reading this might have a different take on it.  I won't put names down or all the in depth detail as it isn't appropriate but hopefully you will get the gist of the whole sorry state.

As you all know I have been involved in the local camera club for a few years now, when I first went it was a very relaxed evening and good fun. The group is led by a committee of volunteers made up from the members, I very quickly joined the committee - because that is me, I like to be involved in the running of things and help out. Any way, last year some of the new members for reasons best known to themselves took a dislike to the then president.  A couple of them started to make allegations against him (they are female) and I found myself in the absence of the Vice President dealing with it. I asked them to put it in writing to the committee and we would deal with it - unfortunately it never arrived in writing and still hasn't.  To cut it short it turned nasty in the sense that the ladies (term used very loosely!) turned rather nasty, posting face book comments, talking to other groups and repeating their accusations etc etc.  Sure you all know what I mean "school ground behaviour" - hence my coming off face book awhile back. Then they had a pop at me - which was no big surprise.  At that point I detached myself from completely from the group that they had got together (not cc) and removed them from my life, I don't need people like that in it.  Unfortunately the President didn't detached himself and it has continued
and the result is he has got so tied up in it without taking part he threw his toys out of the pram last week and resigned from the club - leaving me to pick up the pieces and sort out the fallout from it all!!!
 
So out of the blue for the second time in a week I found myself completely out of my comfort zone, this time stood up in front of a group of people who were dying to ask questions which I wouldn't/couldn't answer and wondering what the heck was going on.  Thankfully the other committee members are brilliant and supported me all the way and the members were great and only one started to say something out of line - which at the time I stopped him sharply, but on hind- sight I think I might of jumped down his throat before he actually had the chance to say what he was going to say - purely because I was somewhat on edge and he is part of the said group who has caused trouble!  So I feel an apology may be due on my part.
 
Anyway the long and short is that this week the members have to vote again on who they want as their President, I have put myself forward I as felt I had to being Vice President.  The past President has also put himself forward, so it will be for the members to choose, if they go for the first ever female club president (hate that title) or go back to the one they have had for the previous two years.  I am really hoping that the evening does not turn unpleasant in any way and the club can get back to being a friendly fun place to be on an evening. 
 
Sorry for the ramble, but it has done me good to write this down and get it off my chest.  If you have managed to get this far you have done really well! 
 
I have spent a lot of time on Pinterest and I found this quote the other day which I felt summed up this situation up rather well.
 
 
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Right I am off to work this afternoon. Heard today that Mick will find out on the 27th Oct if he still has a job or not!! 
 
"Que Sera, Sera" x
 
 

13 comments:

  1. That's a horrible situation to be in and I feel for you. It's one of the reasons I don't normally join clubs because, in my experience, this sort of thing happens all too frequently. I hope it all gets sorted soon and that you can get back to enjoying your time at the club again.

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  2. Must admit Eileen there have been many a time I would have liked to just walk away. xx

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  3. I'm glad you got it off your chest Karen and I hope that all goes well with your meeting and that your club becomes a fun place to be again x

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    1. Thanks Tracy, I certainly hope so. xx

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  4. I do not understand people. There are enough problems in this world without making mountains out of mole hills. If they don't like it, why do they just not leave and if they feel so inclined start their own club!!

    I hope you do not get too involved I am sure you have better things to do than sort out over grown school kids.

    Hoping you have a better week, wish I could join a camera club, there is so much I would like to learn. Take care Diane

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    1. lol me neither Diane, At this moment in time I would say stay away from clubs. lol. x

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  5. Karen.. I fell on this by accident.. I do hope you are okay. I feel a bit the same, wonder who reads what I write and whether it is worth the rant / effort. but if it feels good do it I say.
    Hope things work out okay.. you sound like you have done a good job standing away from the debate, so I am guessing you may just be elected!
    27th.. !! So I guess that holiday is going to be interesting.. plan making if nothing else.. did you book it?! xx

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    1. Thanks Kathi, no still not booked our holiday lol. xx

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  6. I'm not a "club" person either, for this very reason. As you say, que sera sera, whatever happens will turn out to be the right thing in the end, keep smiling :-)

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    1. Wise move Joy, and totally agree with you. Thanks xx

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  7. I read, as it's my way of catching up with you. Doesn't sound like a goid situation to be in. I tend to take a back seat in most things so good on you for stepping up. I hope you let us know what happens x x x

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  8. Oooh, Karen, what a situation to be in!! I sort of fell into this kinda thing with school 'Friends' committee type thing....all starts out fine and every one is friendly, then the backstabbers and the "who does she/they think she/they are" type of problem starts.... .why does it all have to get so complicated???? All you want is a friendly group who enjoy what they are doing at the end of the day!! Good luck and I hope your group gets back on track and just have fun!! :) x

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  9. It's good to get things off our chests and I think your quote is very apt.
    Sincerely hope Mick receives good news today.

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